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Choosing the Best Lube for Anal Sex

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In my own experience, finding the right lube for anal sex has proved to be extremely difficult. I have tried countless brands, sprawled numerous online forums and done hours worth of research. After years trying types and combinations, I realize how much time and money I have wasted on products that don’t work.  Through trial and error, and a little self-educating, I have finally found a combination that works best for me. I just wish that after all the time and hassle that someone had told me about all of these different lubes before actually trying them.  That is why I want whoever is reading this to avoid the waste of time and money I went through and to start having better sex.

Main Types of Lube

In the world of sex, there are three main types of lubricants: oil, water and silicone, each of which has its own unique characteristics and feels.   Among these three categories there are definitely advantages and drawbacks to each.  I will try to give you a little background with my experiences with each type, and tell you what combination works best for me. Remember though, you should really try a number of different lubes yourself to help determine which types work best for you.  I have really narrowed these down to a few great products but ultimately; selecting the “best” lube comes down to your own personal preference.

Silicone Based

For anal sex, silicone lubes are ideal and extremely useful.   They are slippery, long lasting, easy to clean up.  Most importantly they are condom safe.  As the name states they are made from a silicone base, which are specifically designed to create minimal heat and friction.  Because silicone lubes do not primarily contain water, they are not easily absorbed by the skin, therefore last much longer than water-based lubes. Silicone lubes are also commonly found on pre-lubricated condoms, because of their excellent versatility.  Here is a list of a few that I personally recommend checking out.


pjurPjur Backdoor Glide

Easily my highest recommendation, especially for people who have had problems with pain or discomfort as a bottom in the past.  Pjur is a very highly acclaimed German company who makes some pretty great products and Backdoor, as the name suggests, is designed specifically for anal sex.  It has a nice thick consistency that’s super slippery and long lasting.  Another great perk about this lube is the inclusion of an anal relaxant.  This makes entry and sex a lot easier and much less painful.  It also contains a mild numbing element to help with any discomfort. I really recommend giving this one a look.

View Pjur Backdoor on MaleQ Store or Amazon


anal glideAnal Glide Extra Desensitizer

This is another great silicone based lube designed for anal sex.  This lube also includes an anal relaxant to help make the process of bottoming easier.  Another great feature is the pump dispenser design, which lets you lube up with only one hand.  I will say from experience, it does come in handy.

View Anal Glide on MaleQ Store or Amazon



pjur manPjur Man Premium Extreme Glide

The main difference between the Premium Extreme Glide and Backdoor Glide is the lack of a numbing and relaxant agent.  I also noticed that the consistency seems to be slightly thicker that the Backdoor which I like better. Either way, this is a very good alternative for those looking for a great, long lasting lube but don’t need the numbing.  In all honesty, you really can’t go wrong with either one.

View Pjur Man on MaleQ Store or Amazon

Water Based Lubes

Like their silicone counterparts, water based lubes are completely condom safe and great for anal sex.  The main difference between water and silicone-based lubricants besides their primary ingredient is how long they last.  The major disadvantage to a water based lube is that the body absorbs the water more quickly. This means that you will need to re-apply fairly regularly.  On the other hand, this means that water lubes are a breeze to clean up because unlike oil and some silicone lubes, there is no oily residue left over. Here are a few lubes that I recommend myself.



Though Maximus is technically a silicone water based hybrid, I have it listed here because it is one of the thickest and long-lasting lubes you will find: Period.  Its consistency, and longevity and overall quality make it ideal for anal sex.  I am not exaggerating when I say that a little bit of this stuff goes a long way. The best part is that it is very, very slippery, but just as easy to clean up as any other water based lube.  I still use Maximus today and it is definitely money very well spent.

View Maximus on MaleQ Store or Amazon



swissSwiss Navy (Reader Recommendation)

Since I posted this article I have had a number of readers request me to add Swiss Navy to the list.  I decided to give it a try for myself and I can easily understand why this lube has such a great reputation.  It is a heavy duty, ultra slick and water based yet gives all the slippery fun plus a little more.  If you are going the extra mile, or the extra hour in the bedroom this will definately keep up to pace.  Not to mention it is very inexpensive at only $30 for 32 ounces for the largest size.

View Swiss Navy on MaleQ Store or Amazon


120 ID Glide Lubricant

ID is famous because it is the first ever water based lube to meet pharmaceutical quality and performance standards.  The nice thing about ID is that it comes in generous bottles that are relatively cheap.  I keep this as a backup, because I can use as much of this stuff as I want. The best part is that it is very cheap ($10 for 10oz.) so won’t make a dent in your wallet.  For those on a budget, take a look.

View ID Glide on MaleQ Store or Amazon




Astroglide is the classic option in the world of lubricants.  It is slippery, long lasting and a favorite in the gay community.  This is one of the first lubes I ever experimented with, and I still come back to it from time to time. Astroglide has a 30-year reputation of making great lubes, and for those looking for a great balance between quality and price, this is the way to go.

View Astroglide in MaleQ Store or Amazon


Oil Based

This category of lubes is last on the list because if you plan on practicing safer-sex (i.e. using condoms) then you should stay far, far away from oil lubes.  As the name states, these are lubricants made from an oil base.  This can include things like baby oil, Vaseline, Crisco or other oils.  Not only are these lubes extremely messy and difficult to clean up, they are corrosive to latex, the material that most condoms are made of.  The only real upside to oil lubes is that they are very slippery and long lasting.  Using oil lubes may seem convenient at first, but you are really only causing yourself a lot of frustration, mess and risk by using them. So if you know what is best for you, stay away.


Lube shooterLube Injectors

In addition to buying the right lube, you should also look into getting a lube injector.  This makes applying lube as a bottom effortless.  It literally shoots a generous amount of lube deep inside making prep extremely easy.  It took me awhile to start using one, but it was well worth making the switch.

View Lube injectors in MaleQ Store


My current usage actually a combination of silicone and water based lubes.   This gets the best of both world. I get the relaxing effects of the Pjur Backdoor, and the option to use as much of a cheaper water based lube like Swiss Navy or Maximus as I need.  I cannot emphasize it enough.  Experiment, experiment experiment.  Finding the right lube that works for you can really make sex that much more enjoyable.


If you have any personal favorite or recommendations be sure to leave them in the comments below.


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I recently worked in NYC on the Freedom to Marry Campaign and have been actively involved in the LGBTQ scene in Boston. I have also lived and studied in Ireland, Russia, Japan and Korea where I learned a lot about being gay in different countries. Coming out wasn't easy for me. I want the articles I write to make your lives easier and your experiences better. If you have a question, suggestion, or are just looking to chat, feel free to message me at:

4 Comments to “Choosing the Best Lube for Anal Sex”
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    Ted Buonaiuto
    September 9, 2013 - Reply

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    Jason Trainer
    November 21, 2013 - Reply

    A well researched article! Oil based lubes should be avoided if you are practicing safe sex for sure, but the neat thing is that a lot of typically oil based brands like Boy Butter and Elbow Grease also made water based versions that are condom compatible (and toy compatible which is dope!)

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    February 10, 2014 - Reply

    Which gay lube won’t make my boyfriend or me itchy or break out?

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      Matthew Brown
      February 11, 2014 - Reply

      Hi Stephen,

      If you are breaking out after sex it likely means that you have an allergy to one of the ingredients in either the condoms or lubricant you are using. My first suggestion would be to switch over to latex free condoms and see if that helps. Also I recommend water-based lubricants as they have less chemicals and are primarily made of water. As I said in your other comment if you are still having irritation after you should contact your doctor for an allergy test.

      I hope this helps.


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