How to Give a Blowjob: Sucking Dick for Beginners – 8 Easy Steps

How to Give a Blowjob: Sucking Dick for Beginners – 8 Easy Steps

You are about to suck a dick for the first time and your mind is racing – How do I even give a blowjob?  Can I fit it in all at once? Am I supposed to suck on it or blow? What if I suck?!? (pun intended). Well, that’s what we are here for, to make sure you don’t suck at sucking dick! So Just sit back and relax because you are about to get the 101 on how to give a blowjob.

How to Give A Blowjob

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1. Foreplay

To start, let’s take things slow.  I like to think that half the fun of any kind of sex is the build up and the tension.   This is what makes foreplay so much fun.

Don’t tear off his clothes and chow his dick down in one go!

Kiss his body, brush your hands over his legs and work your way down to your soon to be unwrapped birthday present. Finally, when his pants are finally off enjoy the moment!

You’ve earned it.  

So much of the fun is in the anticipation.

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2. Take off his pants!

Okay, so now his pants are off, and you have a beautiful dick staring you in the face.

~ Now what? ~

Well, let’s learn how to give a blowjob!  The first and most important step?

3. Get things wet! – Lubrication

This is key if you want things to feel good so start by making things plenty wet.  Use your tongue and work your way up and down.

Now it’s time to go in. Take it slow and take only what you can manage.  It’s not worth choking or coughing.  Your comfort is just as important. 

I’ll even let you in on a little secret.

A good blow job isn’t about how deep you can go,  it’s more about technique.

So take only what length you feel comfortable. (Tip: use your hand as a stopper to limit how far in his penis can go into your mouth).

Now let’s get down to the dirty. If you want to give a good blowjob you need to keep three points in mind:

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4. Keep a rhythm.

To start, you want to pick a comfortable rhythm and stick to it.  Keep in mind that you could be giving this blow job for 15 seconds or 15 minutes!  It all depends on how long he takes to cum.

We aren’t trying to sprint here, so pick a speed that is comfortable and most importantly:

Stick to it!

Blowjobs are all about building to a tipping point, and changing your rhythm or stopping entirely can mean that you lose all the progress you made towards climax!

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5. Focus on the suction.

Next, I know that it’s called a blowjob but you need to suck!

This is where most guys fuck up, so getting this piece right is what will make your blowjob feel amazing!

It’s one thing to simply have a dick in your mouth, but unless you actually suck then he won’t feel a thing.

Don’t overkill it though – find yourself a nice medium that feels good but not uncomfortable.

This kind of feeling is what we are programmed to respond to sexually (think of an ass or vagina). You want your tongue and mouth tight around his dick.  The closer you can get to feeling like real sex the better.

6. Watch The Teeth

Finally, you need to keep in mind your teeth.  To put it simply:

Teeth + Dick = Pain

To fix this, tense your lips slightly over your teeth.  Again not too strong because you don’t want to exhaust your muscles, but just enough to block your teeth.

This will also apply a bit of pressure on his dick which if done right will feel nice.

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7. Use all your tools

Learning how to give a blowjob isn’t just about using your mouth, it’s also about using your whole body!

Rub your legs on his, lick on and around his balls, kiss his dick, play with his nipples, and always, always use your hands.

One rule of thumb I always follow is to keep your hands occupied.  You can use one hand on his dick move it up and down with your mouth.

You can also use your other hand to play with his nipples, balls, or rub his thighs.

Get into it and show some fire!

8. Should you Swallow?

Swallowing comes down to personal preference and is something that YOU decide.  Depending on the person, swallowing can be sexy, and for people like me, is not their cup of tea.

Although chances of contracting an STD are relatively low when compared to other forms of sex, it is important to note that if your partner has an STD, then swallowing can increase your chances of catching and STD yourself.

If you want to play it the safest then you don’t even need you let him cum in your mouth.

Do what you are comfortable with and have fun!

(Note: Although it is easy to get caught up in STDs which are something to be mindful of, don’t let the worry occupy your mind too much.  If you practice oral sex, your risk of contracting most major STDs like HIV is relatively low.)


Read More: 

Can You Get HIV From Oral Sex

STIs and safety are always things to think about. The best thing is to use for best judgment, communicate, and understand risk. You can read more here:

Can you get HIV from Oral Sex?


Things to Watch Out For

Oral hygiene is super important for you and your partner and there are a few things to keep in mind.

Brushing your teeth is a good way to remove bacteria and keep things fresh, but one thing you might now realize if you are just learning how to give a blow job is that brushing can also create small cuts in your mouth.

That is why it is important to wait at least 30 minutes after brushing before you have oral sex to be extra safe.  This also goes for canker sores too.

Open cuts can increase your risk of STIs, so you want to make sure you keep your mouth healthy and cut free.  This simple step can go a long way to keeping yourself safe.

Oral Sex, blowjobs and sucking dick.  It all sounds intimidating at first but with a little practice and some mindfulness you will be giving some awesome head in no time!

Andrew Christian also has a great video on how to give a blowjob with a full, in-depth guide.

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For more tips about sex for beginners, check out our full guide on How to Give a Handjob. We walk through everything you need to know to have your partner summing in no time.

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Now you know how to give a blowjob,  Do you have any tips for first timers? Any techniques that you are itching to share?  Post them in the comments below.

Mr. Q

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This Post Has 35 Comments

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    Janus

    Good day my dear Would really like to express that this blog is really brilliant. You’re writing is immaculate and i do hope you make more articles. Cheers 😉

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    Rick kao

    a 23yo gay ‘s tips on oral sex ?

    you have been enlighted in an early age ,bro

    hmnn…

    1. Loren Couse
      Loren Couse

      Just like all of the articles I write on this site, this is my advice. I am not saying these are be all end all or “facts”, but what I found to be helpful. If you have any tips of your own please feel free to share!

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      Hi Daddy

      What’s up sexy I’m horny and would like to suck dick and swallow the load baby

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      Junior

      Hi sexy what’s up I’m junior

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    rick kao

    isnt it kinda challenging to suck a dick without taking a break during the whole oral session ?

    i started to gag after 2 mins….

    1. Loren Couse
      Loren Couse

      Just takes some practice. The first few times is always a bitch. But if you are going for fun you can stop and go. If you are going for cum, then go go go!

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        Enigma

        If it’s too long and he wants you to take it all, try sticking your tongue out a little. It seems to open your throat up.

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      Jr

      Hi sexy what’s up

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    Mia

    Sucking dick is amazing it’s nothing like him having control holding ya head pushing u up and down on the dick. I love that feeling of choking on the dick it turns me on and gets my pussy super wet. You gotta suck that dick like it’s ya last meal u ever going to eat ??

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      Coby

      Dam that sounds so hot the way Mia described choking on a penis mmmmm ?Would like to hear more details from you Mia might help out with my gf getting it done right ! Maybe you can explain it to her for me cause she’s hot but needs advice on sucking some dick

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    DJ

    Can’t agree about not swallowing. You always should or don’t let him cum in your mouth. I love it when a guy pumps his cum into my mouth, but I don’t really care for the taste of it. Yet, I found the fastest and best way to get beyond it is just to swallow it and, voila! It’s gone..

    We almost never read this in blow job advice columns. Use t(e tip of your tongue to flick on his frenulum. It feels device and will usually get me over the top fast.

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      Jr

      Hi sexy

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    Husband

    This advice was amazing my husband loved the way I did things after reading this article.

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    Johnny

    I’ll be sure to use these tips tonight.

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    Jr

    Hi Guys I’m junior and horny for you text me 5593163740 and I’m yours

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    Hi Daddy

    I want to suck your dick and swallow your cum guys

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      Anonymous

      I’m looking for someone to give Me a bj I’m married descreet

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        Steve

        I’ll suck your penis now

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        Steve

        I’m ready to suck your penis now

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        Anonymous

        I would love suck your cock as it would be my first time but really want to do and swallow all your cum. But at the moment no contact is in force when it’s over I will be looking to suck another mans cock hopefully in london

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      gheyhomophag

      Fuck yeah! C’mon! suck that dick!Eat my cum! Aaaaagh!

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    Anonymous

    so if i choose not to let him cum in my mouth, where should he cum? this might be a stupid question but i’m a beginner and i wanna know

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      Anonymous

      On your face

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      Anonymous

      your tits

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    James Johnson

    One of the most erotic things to me is when my boyfriend holds my head and presses my face tightly to his belly. It makes gag, big time. But I’m a bottom, so he’s in charge of my breathing. He says his favorite sound is when I try to talk with his dick crammed all the way down my throat. I’m glad he likes it.

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    Mike

    Hi. I’m very interested in cocks. Hope to hear from you. I’m in the New Orleans area.

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    Sillyboytoy

    My guy friend and i would get togethar couple times every summer for years. I took his 8 1/2″ in my ass everytime however he wanted t give it. Then i sucked on it after we had been jacking one night and he came quick and i swallowd all of his load. Next morning jm still tasting cock and i want it again! So did he! I sucked his dick 3 more times that first week and i was so hooked! He kept vomin right back for me to suck his cock and swallow- every week i sucked it instead of getting fucked i love to swallow !*

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      Anonymous

      Damm

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    Chris double

    I love a sloppy Blowjob. When she makes eye contact and tries to Deepthroat my 9 inch cock, I’m in awww.. cont wait to find another deepthroat champ.

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    David

    I can deepthroat a 12 inch dildo all the way down till it disappears. The bigger the better and more challenging. Was driving home from work one day and gave a guy a ride home. He wanted me to suck his dick and it was the biggest, longest, blackest dick I have ever had in my mouth. Before we started I made sure my ass was clean and after I sucked him I jumped on top and started riding that monster. He started to get close, so I jumped off and started sucking him again until he finished in my mouth.

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    Dee J

    I would love to suck a dick, seems i never get a chance…too timid I guess.

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    MISS T

    okay, so I found this page because I don’t know how to suck dick, and its a big problem in my relationship the tips were very good to thank you. Now I just have to try them out but I and him been fighting for two days now due to me not sucking his dick. I know to keep my relationship its something I have to do because that’s all he asked out of me but I’m scared to do it because I feel like I suck at it he never told me he liked it he doesn’t make noise or anything but sex is sooo different we are both enjoying it me sucking his dick it’s just blah lol. like someone said their boyfriend takes the head and moves it up and down sometimes he don’t do anything but lay there is that bad and do I suck his dick until he cum or what?

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    RIC

    Sucking cock isn’t a race. Sometimes my friends and I will take several hours sucking each other before we make the other guy cum. We like to suck cock, so why rush it? We all like seeing each other sucking a hard cock. A real benefit of edging each other like this, is we get a huge cum shot when we do cum. I like the challenge of keeping up with swallowing big loads, as I love the cum pulsing into my mouth. I think the most important tip is to keep sucking the cock for a minute after he cums, to be sure you have got all the semn he has to offer. I usually suck a man until he starts to go soft. Guys appreciate it that I don’t just suck cock, but actually make love to the cock with my mouth. If you pass through the area, I’ll suck you off.

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