Becoming A Sex Goddess – How to Feel Sexy in 5 Steps
How many of you have had doubts when it comes to feeling sexy? If you just raised your hand, I totally hear you. I’d like to share a few personal aspects of how to transform from an average sex lover to a sex goddess. Keep reading how to feel sexy and better understand this amazing process!
Becoming A Sex Goddess – How to Feel Sexy
First, let’s start with a personal story: This summer I was invited to a game night. Given the fact that most board games need extra people, friends invited someone new. It turned out to be a double date without a happy ending. In fact, I ended up scaring the new person and he ran away. It left me wondering:
Am I Too Much?
Labeling a woman as being “too much” is common, not to mention slightly sexist, which I usually refuse to accept. I do understand that men see and hear stereotypes about women and find it easy to act accordingly. But those claims, that women are “princesses” locked up in a cave waiting for prince charming to come? That fairy tale is not my favorite. When it comes to becoming a sex goddess and learning how to feel sexy, it’s not a helpful story!
Stand on Equal Ground
The number one rule that my dates have to obey is equality. Sexual intercourse should be a partnership with no dominant and submissive parties in it (except for the BDSM or fetish activities that require a political attitude).
Generally speaking, no matter who you are looking for, you must treat them, and be treated EQUALLY. That will keep everyone happy. And remember, no one should ever be “not enough” or “too much”. So, with that said…
Let’s Talk About Sex!
There is a process of turning any person with no sexual experience whatsoever into a sex goddess if given enough time. Moreover, how we are treated is a big part of determining whether or not we wanna keep seeing one another. Even if it’s a Tinder/Grindr date, communication – including body language and facial expression as well – is crucial.
Also, if it is someone you’re meeting online while dating in 2020, making sure you’re healthy – meaning you’re at least tested negative for Covid-19, is vitally important. Not to mention it is a fair way. Navigating the power dinamics in a relationship – or during intercourse is something we all tend to internalize, yet not being aware of.
Inequality lies in our attitude towards how we think about the first sexual encounter with our date/new partner. Once, I was called “difficult to satisfy in bed” due to my experience, and my partner’s lack thereof. People have no idea how much pressure is being put on a woman by such a statement. We all want to be amazing in bed, we all want the key to becoming a sex goddess. So what do we do?
For Starters: Talk and Make Sex Chat Constructive
According to a list of tips I found from Other Nature, keep the following in mind for most effective sex talks:
- Choose the right time for discussing with your lover what pleases you. If you come up with it out of the blue, they might not be in the right headspace for it.
- Ask questions, rather than making assumptions (e.g. “does the porn you watch influence how you feel about the sex you have?” as opposed to “I know you’re comparing me to the pornstars you watch”)
- Include your own experiences, and be specific, rather than labeling the other person or their actions (e.g. “I feel neglected and lonely when you fall asleep right after you cum”, as opposed to “you’re selfish” or “you neglect me”)
- Highlight positives (e.g. “I really loved that time when you caught me off-guard on my way to work – it was so hot. Can we do more of that kind of thing?” rather than “you’re not spontaneous anymore”.)
- Going for a walk creates literal space around the topic being discussed, and takes off the pressure for eye contact, which can sometimes be too intense.
Masturbate! The More, The Merrier
As I have given you tips for fantastic solo play in my how a woman masturbates post, it is time to quote an expert on sexual fulfillment. As Dr. Wayne W. Dyer in Your Erroneous Zones writes, “Sexually, you can practice greater self-love. You can stand naked in front of a mirror and tell yourself how attractive you are. You can get in touch with your body.”
Explore yourself sensually, give yourself goosebumbs of shivery pleasure. With others, you can also choose sexual fulfillment for you, rather than making your partner’s pleasure more important than your own. Only by choosing gratification for yourself can you give pleasure.
You can choose orgasm for yourself. You can make yourself achieve the ultimate physical experience by believing that you are worth it, and then getting lost in the excitement of verifying it for you.”
You might have come across Oscar Wilde’s quote on sex and power that might be Literature’s tip on becoming a sex goddess and goes: “Everything in the world is about sex except sex. Sex is about power.” Beyond the rush of hormones and feelings, it is also a drive for deep connection and momentary freedom. So where does sexual power come from?
All The Spices Of Fear Are Welcome
According to Anaïs Nin, a French-born novelist, influential artist, and thinker, author of Delta of Venus, “the source of sexual power is curiosity, passion. Sex does not thrive on monotony. Without feeling, inventions, moods, no surprises in bed. Sex must be mixed with tears, laughter, words, promises, scenes, jealousy, envy, all the spices of fear, foreign travel, new faces, novels, stories, dreams, fantasies, music, dancing, opium, wine.”
I personally believe that knowing your own body and its needs is also a deadly serious matter of power, sexual glamour, and how to feel sexy. Discovering and communicating about your hotspots, dislikes, wildest fantasies, quirks, squicks, preferences will be priceless for your partner when trying to satisfy you.
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This is our full guide to becoming a sex goddess and how to feel sexy. Do you have any advice you want to share? Let us know in the comments below!
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