How to Use an Enema: Douching Before Anal Sex

So you want to use an enema but don’t know where to start!  That’s why we are here to give you the low-down and teach you how to use an enema for the very first time.

The first thing you think when you hear anal sex probably isn’t “clean”.  Well, push your preconceptions aside, because the truth of the matter is – it can be!


If you use an enema and practice proper hygiene before having anal sex then you will be in for some of the cleanest sex you have ever had!

Douching sounds a bit scary, but the honest truth is that using an enema makes getting ready for sex is easier, faster and much more convenient.


I cannot emphasize how much using an enema can improve anal sex.  So my advice is to give douching a try!


How to Use an Enema

Getting Started


Using an anal enema can be a strange experience for first timers.  This is why choosing an enema that is comfortable and made specifically for anal douching is so important.

There are a lot of different types and sizes out there but when it comes down to it, your enema only needs to do one thing – clean you up before sex.


Choosing an Enema

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When you select your enema you want something that is simple to use, easy to clean, and will last you a long time.

I typically recommend the Pros Enema (pictured above) because it works well for almost everyone.  It is relatively inexpensive at around $12, and the simple design is easy to disassemble and refill.

Even more, it is comfortable to use, and the tip it narrow and goes in easily.  It is simple, no frills and gets the job done for not too much money.

The removable heads also make it easy to clean.  All it takes is a bit of soap and water and a thorough rinse inside and out.


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Best of all there are 4 different sizes to choose from from small all the way to XL for the more heavy duty situations. If you are looking for a no frills douche then you really can’t go wrong here.


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If you want something that is a more multi-purpose use, then a high-capacity lube injector is also a good option.

Lube injectors are used for applying lube inside before anal sex, and are much more effective than shoving a finger in.

As an added plus, you can also use injectors with a fill of water and have the same effect as using an enema.

To make insertion a bit more comfortable I recommend using a bit of lube on the tip to make things slide in a little more smoothly.


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Using Your Enema for the First Time

Go to the Bathroom


OK, now let’s get into the details of actually how to use an enema for the first time.

To start, go to the bathroom naturally.  You want to flush your system naturally as much as possible before you attempt using an enema.

When using the bathroom, be sure to take your time and try not to strain yourself.

When you are finished, wash up down there with your finger and some warm water.  You want to make sure the area is clean before you use the enema.


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Next, fill your enema pouch with room temperature water.

Do not make the water too cold or too hot, as this can be really uncomfortable (I know from experience).


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Next, you want to apply a small amount of lubricant to the tip of the enema.

For a guide on picking the right anal lube, check here.


Generally, we recommend using Swiss Navy Water based lube as it is an extra slippery anal lube which works for most situations both for prep and in the bedroom.


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Insert Your Enema


Gently slide in the tip of the enema with a bit of lube on the tip so that it is about an inch inside.

When you are inserting, I recommend doing it over a toilet just to be extra cautious.

Slowly press the enema bulb and as you do this the water will begin to go inside.


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This is extremely important! Once you have pressed the bulb all the way, do NOT release the enema bulb.


The pressure difference will cause dirty water to rush back into the pouch.  That would be bad.


Next, slowly remove the tip of the enema and let the water sit inside.  Wait for about three to five minutes to allow any leftover residue soften.


Finally, push out and go to the bathroom again making sure that all of the water is gone.

Repeat this process one or two more times and you will ready for action.


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Things To Remember


Douching is a great way to clear up before sex.  Although it is useful you should limit yourself to doing it a few times a week.

It can cause irritation to the colon wall if used too often and can also make you rely on it. This can make going to the bathroom naturally more difficult.


Remember to follow the above steps closely and soon it will become second nature.  You will notice an improvement in the quality of sex almost immediately.


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For anal sex first timers you can also check our in-depth guide, How to Have Anal Sex For the First Time Here.


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For anyone having anal sex for the first time we recommend checking out the anal sex starter kit.  it has everything you need to get started including:


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If you have any questions about how to use an enema or would rather ask us directly feel free to email us at [email protected] or write them down in the comments below!


Do you have any tips or advice for how to use an enema for the first time?  Leave them in the comments below.



  1. stephenrichards
    February 10, 2014 5:26 pm Reply

    How do I prepare for my first time at anal intercourse?

    1. Matthew Brown
      February 11, 2014 5:11 pm Reply

      I actually wrote an article on just this topic! You can check it out here.

  2. Charles Herman
    July 26, 2015 11:41 pm Reply

    How much time before intercourse should I allow myself after douching?

    1. Loren Couse
      August 13, 2015 8:51 pm Reply

      Assuming you only use water you can start as soon as you feel comfortable.

  3. Pepe
    September 18, 2015 3:13 am Reply

    I used an enema once and it made me constipated. How can i avoid this annoying effect?

    1. Loren Couse
      September 24, 2015 1:34 pm Reply

      Hey Pepe,

      Usually constipation happens if you over-use an enema. Make sure that you are limiting use to a few times a week at most. Otherwise your body can become reliant on it.

      If that isn’t the case, remember to only use room-temperature water and limit the amount of cycles you use per clean-up.

      Hope this helps,


  4. jason
    May 10, 2016 9:06 pm Reply

    hello there, I really enjoyed your article, especially the part you said “we should all enjoy anal sex, espeically botttoms”

    I do have a serious question, i dont know if its just me, or it happens to all bottoms
    today, i used fleet enema 4 hours before sex, i took a dump before i used fleet enema, and it felt better and cleaner after flteet enema, then 2 hours later, i was too nervous, wanted to make sure i was clean, so i used soap and water enema again, and surprisingly, i still saw those yellow ish stuff, i just keep repeating enema, and keeps seeing yellow watery stuff comes out, what the heck is going on? i have really havent had sex in months because of this “shit on dick” thing i am so scared of . let me know what you think, thank you very much.

    1. Loren Couse
      May 11, 2016 6:53 am Reply

      Hey Jason,

      Thanks for checking out the site! Generally, I would say douching once is enough to do the trick – using an enema too much can actually remove the beneficial bacteria your body uses for digestion and can lead to diarrhea, skin irritation, and even prevent you from going to the bathroom naturally.

      There is no such thing as “100% clean” be it a dick, vagina, or your butt. My guess is that this yellow residue was natural mucus, or some other waste that the enema didn’t get to. I can’t say 100%, but my recommendation is that if you are truly worried about hygiene, then simply wear a condom. This, along with proper clean up before hand is the best solution.

      If you haven’t already, take a look at my other article “Sometimes Shit Happens“.

      I hope this helps out.

      All the best,


  5. Iain y
    August 04, 2016 9:40 am Reply

    Hi loran

    Really impressed with article and questions this let to. I have had similar experiences to others, is there a specific amount of water I should be using. For example I had a 150 Mls and 250 so I would use one 250 or two 150’s. Can result in doing it over and over quite annoying.

    So how much should I be looking at and how many times, also the leaving it in for 3-5 min didn’t ever do so will try.

  6. Sam
    August 30, 2016 10:21 pm Reply

    You said that one or two more shots are enough to be cleaned. How much wanter is the appropriate quantity for one shot?


    1. Loren Couse
      August 31, 2016 11:25 am Reply

      If you are using an enema, then the bulbs are typically between 100ml and 150ml. This in most cases should do the trick!

  7. Bob Tall
    September 18, 2016 7:08 am Reply

    My top is quite large and I find I have to “deep clean” which has irratated my rectum. Any suggestions on homeopathic enemas to restore a natural ph balance in my rectum?

    1. Loren Couse
      September 18, 2016 1:02 pm Reply

      Hello Bob,

      As far as enema irritation I recommend using only room temperature water, and trying to limit yourself to two or three flushes at most per session. Additionally, it is best to use your enema only a few times a week. Overuse is almost always the cause of irritation and your body can actually become reliant on it douching. So the best thing to do is to keep a balance.

      Going to the bathroom naturally, and washing up properly in the shower in many cases can have a similar effect as using an enema as well.

      Also, I do not recommend using fleet enema’s or anything other than plain water for sex because although these solutions are more effective at flushing, they can cause more irritation and in many cases are not necessary.

      Unfortunately there is no solution that I am aware of to treat irritation, and if your side effects are frequent and bothersome it is best to talk to your local physician.

      I hope this helps,


  8. Ashley jay Granger
    April 05, 2017 9:26 am Reply

    I tried this and my question is should my penis feel weird , like a sharp pain on the out side of my head on the side

    1. Loren Couse
      April 05, 2017 1:56 pm Reply


      Do you mean when inserting the enema? If you are having pain inserting it I recommend always using lube on the enema tip.

      I would also recommend using room temperature water to avoid any discomfort. For pain on your penis I can’t say for sure. If it continues I would recommend speaking to a doctor to medical professional.



  9. Athena
    June 03, 2017 6:24 am Reply

    I think I’ve been using it the wrong way. I empty my anal douche on the first go, then I squirt it out on the toilet, but then I repeat the process many times after that because the water never runs clear… And I end up using up a whole lotta water. Should I empty my anal douche on the first go into my rectum? Or should I use the same water in my enema in those following times?

    1. Loren Couse
      June 03, 2017 9:18 am Reply

      Hello Athena,

      The best thing you can do is go to the bathroom naturally first and really make sure to empty things out as much as possible before using the enema. After that, it is best to wait about 30 minutes before using the enema to avoid to much stress on your body.

      Another tip is to limit your food intake 24 hours before sex. This can also help to clean things out naturally.

      Generally, you should only need to use the enema 2 to 3 times to get fully cleaned up.

      Hope this helps!



  10. ivan evarts
    June 26, 2017 5:26 pm Reply

    thanks for your lovely and invaluable tips on douching and enemas and anal sex I am a bottom who is rather elderly at 69 and though I havnt had a lot of sex of any kind in the last three or four years I am always looking for ways to improve my anal skills and cleanliness just in case I am very grateful for all you wonderful advice..thank you

    1. Loren Couse
      June 27, 2017 11:57 am Reply

      Hey Ivan,

      I am really glad you found this post helpful!

      Thanks so much for the feedback.

  11. Chuck
    November 02, 2017 4:38 am Reply

    I do not eat 10-12 hrs before anal sex. About 4-5. Hrs before I take a 2 qt plain warm water enema I do this every time I go out on a date. I have 97% of the time never had a problem. If need be we shower.

  12. Terria Catherman
    January 28, 2018 5:35 am Reply

    I’ve read that during anal sex….some might feel like they have to poop…right then. I’m getting ready to try anal for the first time and this is the only thing that concerns me. I plan on limiting my food intake and using an anal enema beforehand. Lots of good info in this article!

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