If you are looking to try anal but aren’t sure where to start then butt plugs are a great option.  Butt plugs are ideal for first timers or people looking to move into bigger more adventurous sizes because they allow you to practice on your own, and move at a comfortable pace.  This makes butt plugs a great tool for people who want to try anal fun but are a bit “tight” down there, and need a little practice to stretch out.  But how to use a butt plug?  Well, let’s get started.

What is a Butt Plug?

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Butt plugs are typically used as a beginner friendly anal toy to help ease your way into anal play.  Most often, butt plugs are used for training and stretching out your anal sphincter muscle to allow you to get used to the new feeling or new sizes.  Butt plugs can be used for short sessions, or even be left in for a longer period (of an hour or two) to help train your anal muscles to “loosen up”.

Butt plugs also come in a variety of materials, including metal, PVC, Glass and Silicone each providing a different feel and flexibility.

For most people starting out, I recommend using flexible materials like PVC or Silicone because of their bendability, making them more comfortable to use.

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These anal plugs are also commonly sold in sets, or “anal trainer kits” which allow you to choose a manageable starting size and work your way up.  For anyone who is experimenting with anal for the first time, Butt Plugs are a fantastic place to start.

By far the most popular anal trainer kit on the site is the Kaplan Anal Trainer Kit because it is well sized for beginners and paces you nicely up to the largest size.  It is also one of the more affordable anal trainer kits, so if you are a first timer not looking to sink a lot of cash in a more premium set, this is a good place to start.

How to Use a Butt Plug

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Using a butt plug is pretty straight forward, but before we get down and dirty you want to be sure to get prepped and ready!

The first thing you need to do is take care of hygiene. 

To start, simply use the bathroom and clean out your pipes.  Afterward, take a shower and clean the entrance and inside of your bum about an inch in with a finger.

To make this easier, you can slowly push outwards (like you are going to the bathroom) and wash up the entrance.  Here, I don’t recommend using soap because it can cause irritation, but make sure you clean up well first.

In most cases this will do the trick, but if you are still worried about hygiene you can always use an enema to really flush things out (full guide here).

Get Lubed Up

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When delving into anything anal, using a good lube is a must!  This is because your anal tissue is extra sensitive, and although this means it can make anal feel amazing, it also means that you can hurt yourself if you aren’t extra careful starting out.  Added to the fact that your body does not have a natural anal lubricant, so

Added to the fact that your body does not have a natural anal lubricant, so you must, must, must use a lube if you are planning to use that anal plug!

As far as lubes that play well with toys, I recommend using a water lube because they won’t degrade the toy’s material and are the easiest to clean up.  As for comfort when doing anything anal, some of my favorite lubes come with a pre-mixed anal relaxant which help to loosen things up and make getting started a breeze.

For most people, Pjur’s Analyze Me Water Glide hits the right balance in terms of comfort, feel, and toy friendliness and the relaxant is just powerful enough to help make sex a bit easier.

For a more in-depth list of anal lubes, where I really break down and get into the nitty gritty, you can check out my full list of the best anal lubes here.

Apply Lots of Lube

The single biggest tip I have for how to use a butt plug for the first time is – use lots and lots of lube!  You want your toy to go in as smooth as possible, and when it’s time for the little guy to come out, you also want it to slide out without a hitch.

That’s why you need to be sure to add lube to the outside of your toy and on your inside!

You can do this with a finger, and slowly work the lube inside, but as I have gotten more experienced I have moved up to using a lube injector as they let you inject a lot of lube quickly and evenly.

After you are lubed up, you want to position the tip of your butt plug at the entrance of your bum.

As you push the toy inward (do this super slowly) you want to push out gently with your anal muscles like you are gonna poop. This will help you to expand and relax your muscles and allow the toy to move in easily.

Another tip I have is to apply pressure with a finger  to the area under your butthole and between your legs.  This is what is sometimes called the “taint” or “grundle”.  As you push on the point you will notice your anal muscles start to ease up.

Take Your Time

Remember to take your time and don’t be afraid to use more lube if you need it. Butt plugs are tapered so that as you move in, the wider it becomes and therefore the more challenging it can be (but who doesn’t like a good challenge ;-).  Your goal for each plug and to insert it all the way past the thickest point, after which it will “pop” into place (and this feeling is very satisfying once you get to this point).

Your ultimate goal for each plug size is to insert it all the way past the thickest point, after which it will “pop” into place (and this feeling is very satisfying once you get to this point).  You may get it on your first try, or you might have to take a few tries, but with patience and practice it should slide into place!

Work Your Way Up!

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You may not be able to get the whole plug in the first time – and that’s OK!  Think of this as a training session where every time you are able to go just a little bit bigger, and eventually graduate up to the next size.

Before you know, that biggest plug in your anal trainer kit will pop in like a breeze.

For most people, once you reach the biggest butt plug in your kit, doing anything anal solo or with a partner will become second nature.  Next thing you know you will be an anal pro!

 But for those looking to really take things to the next level, be sure to check out our full list of anal plugs for the advanced and adventurous.

Toy Care

After every session, you want to make sure to wash your toy thoroughly with soap and hot water.  Cleaning your toy regularly is a must and will help to fight off any nasty smells, or bacteria build up which can be harmful to your health.

In order to extend the life of your toy, especially if you opt for a more expensive set, simply using a toy cleaner will take care of most of these issues.

In terms of the extra safety and longevity that you will get from your butt plugs, it is a $10 well spent.

Anal Starter Kit

Whew!  We just covered a lot there.  I hope it was helpful, and I hope this guide made things a bit easier.  If you have any questions don’t be afraid to e-mail me personally at info@maleq.org.

And for those of you who don’t have the supplies already you can get everything I just mentioned in the Anal Starter Kit.  It has everything you need to get started for the first time, including a Butt Plug Set, Anal Lubes, Injectors, an Enema, and a Toy Cleaner (and even a set of cock rings).   For most people, this is exactly what you need for the first time.

I know that I just threw you with a ton of new information and I know that it is a bit much to take for the first time, but remember to take things slowly and work your way up.  Before you know it you will be a butt plug pro (but you probably shouldn’t write that on your resume).  As always, thanks for reading!

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